Brides in the kitchen ... All Many of you will have no problem, but to avoid unnecessary anxiety in the kitchen on the first day of marriage, here are 4 simple rules to follow.
If you tie the knot after living together more or less long, you already know.
If, instead, brides are inexperienced, you will realize on the first morning. When you return from their honeymoon, open your eyes in your bed, and for the first time you ask "What did I cook today?" Mild anxiety or panic will steal your heartfelt thoughts and divert them up old memories of grandmother's pies and lasagna mom that you forgot to ask for instructions, hundreds of recipes cut out but never proven. Quiet is the first impression of the everyday.
Capita at all, but especially to those who have lived together before marriage and those who have never had the kitchen at the top the hit parade of thoughts. Tell us about your experience: how was your first time in the kitchen? What have you prepared? Who has been juggling with the pans, you or them (the couple)?
Who is going to face the dining experience of the first two we want to give some advice. But do not expect recipes. Because here you will find tips for building a healthy relationship with food so that it does not become an unpleasant duty, and a chronic danger to your happiness.
Roberta Corradin, professional journalist and cook for beloved, wise and humorous writer, author of "The cooks who wanted to be" (Einaudi, € 12.50) explains how to become a four-point-happy wives-in-kitchen, "Even if you are a beginner, if there like cooking, if you live the time of preparation of the room with anxiety, in short, if only an irrepressible sense of duty to move your (first) steps into the kitchen you can survive the stress of preparing the table if you follow these four rules, "suggests writer.
1 - Your husband is outside for lunch? Perfect. Otherwise established from the outset that it is unthinkable to cook twice a day. Abituatelo at noon at Steak and salad or pasta with tomato sauce, salads, and raw meats, prosciutto and melon, fruit, etc. etc.. Nothing more: baked pasta + roasted + outline an attack are untenable to his diet and your emotional balance.
2 - If you do not like to cook we will definitely be something you like to eat. Start from there. Specialize in pizza if you like pizza, in salads if they go crazy. If you cook what you prefer, you certainly will succeed because you do well with love and joy then to enjoy a dish that you enticed. In short, will make you happy. And a happy woman dispenses happiness (even if the plate is only a caprese, believe me). Then worry about your pleasure at the table and also your husband will become infected.
3 - Do not take the monopoly of the kitchen excluding your husband as a man. On the contrary, valorizzatelo: let him try it, who choose a recipe and realize (but not rincorretelo to clean the splashes of sauce or grease marks). First of all understand what it means to be in the kitchen (I will explain the stress and fatigue on the fly) then, seeing that the result is appreciated (by you) I will be proud. Felice. And a happy man pantry, too, happiness. But remember that what he has prepared to become your second favorite dish. Whatever it is.
4 - cook together at least occasionally. Preparing food should be a nice game that involves both. And if you're a beginner do both competing to see who prepares the dish better, cook faster, who experiences an exotic recipe or why not, aphrodisiac, who is new to the supermarket to try. Party is certainly not always in the kitchen, but you mix the vegetables and that he reads the newspaper is an old spot. Today is no longer used.
summary: "transformed life in the game, possibly two. But certainly not crazy in the kitchen because if your husband comes home exhausted and find a wife for the 4 hours spent in a rabbit bone, it will not be so happy," concludes Roberta Corradin.
If, however, know how to cook well and you girls prissy, ie, be careful not to commit the slightest mistake, all you do you do it in a superlative way otherwise we will not put the problem the first day of the wedding in the kitchen could be anxiety.
Browse books and magazines, collect recipes, read blogs, but when the time (the first room, in fact) you panic and do not know what to choose among the many things you can do well: "More than just performance anxiety, this anxiety is perfection, "said Nicola Marsigli, psychotherapist Ipsico the center of Florence, a specialist in anxiety disorders and editor of the book" Nobody's perfect "by Antony-Swinson (Eclipse € 19). "The obsession with perfectionism, in this case the need to make a good impression at the table with your partner, lead to stress more than necessary because you think you should receive an assessment and be assessed for what has been done, not what we are. Think about the return of her husband and the pleasure of being together rather than to look good you will do with a superb fillet in a crust is the right way to start your life together at the table. "
to say, your husband loves you because you're you, not for yours, though good, kitchen.
